I’ve had a lot of alone time this October and I’ve done a lot of thinking about the purpose of Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. On the surface it looks like a month set aside to talk about our babies no longer with us. And it is!

But it is so much more ….

This month is to bring awareness to the doctors who refused to refer to our daughter as anything other than a fetus because “it makes it easier”. Nothing will ever make it easier.

This month is to bring awareness to the hearts of loved ones who still refuse to speak our sweet girl’s name or count her amongst the family number.

This month is to bring awareness to those who can’t understand why we share photos of our dead child. Our only child. Our child.

This month is to bring awareness to the keyboard warriors who are more concerned with their own momentary discomfort instead of the lifetime of anguish loss families feel.

This month is to bring awareness to the woman who asked us what we WERE going to name our daughter when filling out her certificate of LIVE birth. She still gets a name, ma’am.

This month is to bring awareness to the people who think that we will be healed just as soon as he have another child. No child will ever replace our daughter.

This month is for anyone who needs a reminder that all babies don’t get to stay. That not every family gets a happily ever after.

What can you do this month to raise awareness?

If you’ve ever had a question for us, ask it. We are an open book when it comes to our daughter.

Share stories and information in person and on social media. Not sure what to share? Ask!

Make it a point to reach out to a loss family you know. Know their baby’s name? SPEAK IT!

Our foundation is not the only one that provides support to loss families. If you’re wanting to financially support other organizations we would be happy to suggest a few! Are you outside of the US? We can give you donation options abroad too!

But at the very least, we ask that you speak their names. Ask questions. Let loss families know that you are still there. Time doesn’t heal all wounds. Grief comes in waves. Love never fades.

- Elizabeth

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